a month after the funeral, she feels more settled into her new way of life. she is unhappy as much as she is bored, she has no motivation to do anything. she passes her time walking - sometimes amongest trees, sometimes amongest people - they all seem the same to her.
she walked so far one day that she had to look at a map at the train station to find her way back. on the map, it says "you are here" as if the map was with her talking to her. she looked up and discovered that the name of the train station was not the same as where she was on the map. a woman came over and pointed at the map, smiling, "you are here, not there." Jane could see that the woman was about to start chatting, so she said thanks, and slowly walked off. Only a second later that she realised that she hadn't got her direction yet...
when she walked out of the station she could see puddles on the ground, fortunately no one was carrying umbrella so that it did not look like it was raining. she tried to picture the map in her head and tried to find where the woman was pointing at. "I'm here" she found it amusing, "I'm always here, not there, how can I be."
there was a rainbow hanging from the sky, she looked to the end of the rainbow, further, and further still, "he's there", her long hair flying in the wind, trying to escape her head, "will I ever be?"
Sunday 6 June 2010
can I be honest?
A very good friend asked me, can I be honest about everything she asked me?
I have to "be honest" here, no, I actually can't! not so much that I will lie about things, but there will inevitably be things that I just don't want to tell her about how I think of her. in fact, this very question is a good enough example.
"why not? if we are good friends why can't you be honest about everything?"
"because there are questions where if I'm totally honest it's bound to make things uneasy."
"like what?"
"like "can you be honest about everything I ask you?""
"well I thought our relationship can be as honest and open as possible..."
"but this "no" to the question already changes perception. if I had said "yes", it will certainly be the real questions that change other perception that I may not necessarily want to change..."
is this a attitude of me towards friends in general or I do wonder, are other people really more honest and open than I am?
I have to "be honest" here, no, I actually can't! not so much that I will lie about things, but there will inevitably be things that I just don't want to tell her about how I think of her. in fact, this very question is a good enough example.
"why not? if we are good friends why can't you be honest about everything?"
"because there are questions where if I'm totally honest it's bound to make things uneasy."
"like what?"
"like "can you be honest about everything I ask you?""
"well I thought our relationship can be as honest and open as possible..."
"but this "no" to the question already changes perception. if I had said "yes", it will certainly be the real questions that change other perception that I may not necessarily want to change..."
is this a attitude of me towards friends in general or I do wonder, are other people really more honest and open than I am?
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